My Slave Heart Doesn't Understand...

Most everybody has seen the spreadsheet that a husband sent to his wife about their lack of sex.



There is much debate about who is right and wrong and what is the problem. You are probably wondering "What does this have to do with a Master/slave relationship"?

In (most) M/s relationships, this would never happen. There are a couple reasons for this.

1- From the "M" side of a relationship if s/he wants sex. They have sex. There is none of this bologna and excuses to why the don't want to. They say... slave does - hopefully happy to be of use to their Master.

2 - From the "s" side of the relationship they want to please their Master (Mistress), so they don't make excuses.  If there is an actual problem, they should be addressing it whatever protocol manner they have established for communicating (and I am fairly sure that this passive aggressive manner would be unacceptable in most situations)

3 - M/s (D/s) intimate relationships seem to actually accept that sex is an important part of a relationship. This excludes those relationships that are not intentionally non-sexual. I have never met a M/s couple - regardless of how long they have been together, regardless of how old they are - that doesn't have sex on a regular basis. I do accept that this is anecdotal evidence, but something to take note of.

It actually boils down to communication. To have a successful  M/s relationship honest clear communication is necessary. It seems as if theirs broke down a long time ago.

I will wear the collar...

Marks of Possession

Recently I was in a position in which I was not able to wear my collar due to certain circumstances. During that period my Master placed temporary marks on my skin. Some of them were done in simple sharpie, some were dine by light carving.

All this has left me wondering about permanent markings upon my body that cannot be removed. Tattoos, branding and scaring. What kind of significance does that lay on the heart of a slave?

Does it show? Is it hidden? What does it say/picture? Does the slave have a say?

A Slave's Prayer

Pony Play

One of the more fascinating kinks for me to watch is those who participate in Pony Play. For a long time I wondered why this particular fetish captivated me so much. I have never wanted to participate in Pony Play either as a Pony or a Trainer, but still could watch it for great lengths of time.

Then it occurred to me the other day - what it was. It is the structure and shear commitment to making it work. There is the dress, the gear, the movement, the attitude, etc. They are worked on tirelessly to make this beautiful show.

And that is what as slaves we should be doing as well. Perfecting our art, so that when someone watches us with our Masters that they see the beauty of this commitment shine through, even when it is not their kink. It should permeate through our pores, be seen in our actions, shine through our eyes the devotion we feel to our Masters.

This has given me a goal to strive for...



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Happy New Year... Here Is a New Contract

My Master and I rang in the New Year with a new (revised) contract. Yes, my Master and I have been going through contract negotiations for the last month or so. We tried it differently this time and He wrote it. In the past, I have always written what it was, but He decided that our new contract should have a different feel. So, He came up with a new one.
We set a deadline of NYE to make sure we had covered all basis, with a working draft in place. With exceptions of one or two items we already had accepted, we put our new contract into place with the New Year.

He surprised me, and almost broke my heart when we started the process signing a new contract (yes, we really have a paper copy that is really signed by both of us) He removed His collar. His reasoning was simple... I cannot agree of my free will while wearing His collar.

How do you handle your contract?

Happy Birthday!

Today is my Master's birthday.



I love birthdays. I love the opportunity to celebrate milestones. Birthdays, anniversaries, even certain holidays are there to show we have made it that much longer. Sometimes life is awesome and passes very quickly. Sometimes things are not great and it is a testament to our will that we make it to that milestone.

Birthdays are unique in which we take a moment simply to celebrate that someone we love is alive. They are here... in this world... and we get a moment to celebrate that they are living near us.

So, today I get the opportunity to celebrate that my Master is part of my world. That makes me happy.

He joked with me this morning... "So who gets the birthday spankings..." My answer was simply - Whoever you want to.

I love you Master... <3 and Happy Birthday!

Anniversary

Our marriage anniversary was this week. This is not quite what it was... but it is definitely on the list for future anniversaries...



We have been married for 6 years this week. I am blessed to have such a wonderful Master.

His birthday is also this week... I always get "neat" little items for him for gift giving occasions... I will be sure to tell you what I get him :)

Collars

If you read long enough, you run into essays scolding how easy collars are put on and taken off. It is often referred to as a Velcro collar. If you keep reading you will read about how long it should take to get a collar and anything less is not taking it seriously. 

When talking about D/s or M/s relationships you inevitably run into the topic of collars.  For the purpose of this post, we are not talking about protection collars and such... just formal collars.


I read all of this and cry Bull Shit.

And here is why.

When I did my research on collars I likened it to an wedding ring. Whether there is or is not the same level of  commitment... some of that is just a sign of the times. However, as an over all statement, I don't think "time" is a indication of a level of commitment.

Master and I got engaged within 3 months of KNOWING each other and while we lived in different states.  Moved in together 3 months later. Got married almost a year and a half later (trust me it would have been sooner, we just had some outside issues that had to be resolved before we could). We will be celebrating our 6 year anniversary this month.

So the argument of there being a specific time has to be in place for a commitment doesn't fly for me.

And... what works for me may not work for you. Some people need that necessary time.

Having said all this, when Master and I entered into our D/s relationship, he did NOT present me with a collar the next day. Or the next week. Despite being married for 5 years, this was still another commitment. One that we were not taking for granted just because we were married. We decided years ago to get married based on one set of criteria. We were going to decide on a collar on another set.


Since then I have received my collar. I love my collar. He loves my collar. It is a commitment we both understand clearly. I wear my wedding ring understanding the commitment behind it and wear my collar understanding the commitment behind it. They are both very different and unique commitments we take very seriously.