Marks of Possession

Recently I was in a position in which I was not able to wear my collar due to certain circumstances. During that period my Master placed temporary marks on my skin. Some of them were done in simple sharpie, some were dine by light carving.

All this has left me wondering about permanent markings upon my body that cannot be removed. Tattoos, branding and scaring. What kind of significance does that lay on the heart of a slave?

Does it show? Is it hidden? What does it say/picture? Does the slave have a say?

Mid-Week Treat

Flirting.. BDSM style

This is all meant in humor...

One Of Favorite Positions

Vacationing with Family

My Master and I are fairly new to living this lifestyle 24/7. That being said we have transitioned fairly comfortably to our rituals and expectations when we are at home. We have very few hiccups and know how things run.

Nothing challenges a status quo like a family vacation. I am not talking about Master and I going somewhere with just our children, I mean us going on vacation that is essentially a family reunion with his extended family. family. Did I mention we were camping for this 10 days to add to the ... chaos. 

Our first great long preponderance was whether I was going to wear my collar. There was just enough concern on our part whether it would be recognized for what it was, but without the understanding of what it truly meant.  He decided to leave it on, with the caviot if it became speculation we would remove it and figure out what I would wear. The good news is nobody remarked on it. 

What we didn't really discuss, and really should have, was how we were going to handle the interuption of rituals and such. At home it is easy. I call him Sir when the kids are awake (but not in their presence) and Master when they are asleep. I wear my leash from their bedtime to mine. I sit on the floor most of the time during TV/movie/game time (sometimes even when the kids are awake). I kneel at his feet in front of His bed in the morning and night and sometimes in the late afternoon. I get in the car after Him. I walk half a step behind him. I wait to eat till he starts. None of this is that unusual ... till it has a wrench thrown in it. 

There was never a time when we were really alone while we were awake, so titles went out the window. It was going to cause a lot of questions if I sat at his feet... especially since it rained 75% of the time we were there. Kneeling became difficult because lets face it.. our tent was not huge and it was on the ground. Made it uncomfortable for us both. And these are just some of the explanation. 

The reality is many of our rituals and protocols depended on some quiet alone time we were so used to. And while we were prepared for the one off situations, we were not prepared for an extended period of time for it to not be in place.

It was a good learning experience. Things to know how we can handle things differently. To make me feel more owned.

I am always curious how other couples/families who are in a D/s relationship handles such situations. 

Anniversary

Our marriage anniversary was this week. This is not quite what it was... but it is definitely on the list for future anniversaries...



We have been married for 6 years this week. I am blessed to have such a wonderful Master.

His birthday is also this week... I always get "neat" little items for him for gift giving occasions... I will be sure to tell you what I get him :)

A Beautiful Sight...

Submission... What Is It?

dictionary.com has the definition as:

2

: the condition of being submissive, humble, or compliant

3

: an act of submitting to the authority or control of another

When giving the gift of submission to another person, that takes on another meaning all together. Anybody can say they are submissive and obey the orders of a Dom(mes). However, for true submission, it has to begin in their heart. The desire to do what is desired of them. Not just going through the motions, but following rules and direction because it pleases their Dom.

It is not enough to follow what is told to you. It is that desire to follow them for the pleasure of the Dominant.  

A very simplistic example is that many people have the task to make the evening meal. This is not just in D/s relationships, but in everyday relationships - kink or no kink. For many it is just a task that has to get done, and they are the one that chose/are in the position to do it. For those who have this a task of their submission, it is something that is often done with a light heart and a smile because they are bringing comfort and pride to their Master. 

Yes, yes, I know... D/s is not all about what kind of household chores can your Dom(mes) make you do. But to truly break down true submission, you need to see the picture for what it is. It is giving up your will for the will of another with joy in your heart. Their happiness, their pleasure then becomes your own when you truly immerse yourself in that submission. 

Most D/s relationships have some sort of protocol. Some have kneeling, some call their Dom(mes) Sir, Ma'am, Master or Mistress. Some kiss the ground or their Dom(mes) feet when they get home... but some protocols are much more subtle, but just as powerful. While they may sit at the same time as their family, they won't take a bite till their Master takes a bite. They may let them pick out their everyday (non-kink) clothes. 


If simply following directions was all that is need for a good submissive, then none of the above would be needed. These types of displays show that their heart and not just their mind are submissive. 

Like anything else worth having... giving your total submission is not easy. It takes work and constant maintenance. It is a labor of love - but the rewards are so satisfying. It is not a gift to give lightly, and not to just anybody, but when it is done with the right person, there is no doubt that submission is it own treasure