One Of Favorite Positions

First Impressions

"You never get a second chance to make a first impression"

We hear this phase a lot.
Sometimes we apply it to situations like meeting potential employers or our significant others parents.

But as a sub anytime you go out in public you are a reflection of your master.

This means paying particular attention to being clean and presentable. Be sure to bathe, brush hair, brush teeth and wear clean clothes (preferably ones you didn't get off the floor). If it is just a trip to the store than jeans and t-shirts should be fine, if that is your style. This would be less appropriate if going to a nice dinner with or without your Dom/me

Women: take a few minutes to put on some make up and do your hair. It does not have to be anything fancy and intricate, but enough to show you put some effort into it.

Men: make sure you have trimmed your facial hair and removed any hair from undesirable places (ears, nose, etc).

Many subs may ask "Why is it important what anybody besides my Dom/me thinks?" It doesn't. But when your master thinks about you, He or She should feel pride when they think of you. They should not worry about what others think of you because time is not taken to be presentable.

One step beyond this is manners. What you say matters. How you say it matters. You are a reflection of your master and how you treat others is important. There is a great saying

“You can easily judge the character of a man by how he treats those who can do nothing for him.”—Malcolm S. Forbes

Treat people in a way that brings pride and joy to your master.

First impressions can not be remade. Make sure that they would never embarrass your Master. 

Slave Bells

I so want slave bells like these!

Vacationing with Family

My Master and I are fairly new to living this lifestyle 24/7. That being said we have transitioned fairly comfortably to our rituals and expectations when we are at home. We have very few hiccups and know how things run.

Nothing challenges a status quo like a family vacation. I am not talking about Master and I going somewhere with just our children, I mean us going on vacation that is essentially a family reunion with his extended family. family. Did I mention we were camping for this 10 days to add to the ... chaos. 

Our first great long preponderance was whether I was going to wear my collar. There was just enough concern on our part whether it would be recognized for what it was, but without the understanding of what it truly meant.  He decided to leave it on, with the caviot if it became speculation we would remove it and figure out what I would wear. The good news is nobody remarked on it. 

What we didn't really discuss, and really should have, was how we were going to handle the interuption of rituals and such. At home it is easy. I call him Sir when the kids are awake (but not in their presence) and Master when they are asleep. I wear my leash from their bedtime to mine. I sit on the floor most of the time during TV/movie/game time (sometimes even when the kids are awake). I kneel at his feet in front of His bed in the morning and night and sometimes in the late afternoon. I get in the car after Him. I walk half a step behind him. I wait to eat till he starts. None of this is that unusual ... till it has a wrench thrown in it. 

There was never a time when we were really alone while we were awake, so titles went out the window. It was going to cause a lot of questions if I sat at his feet... especially since it rained 75% of the time we were there. Kneeling became difficult because lets face it.. our tent was not huge and it was on the ground. Made it uncomfortable for us both. And these are just some of the explanation. 

The reality is many of our rituals and protocols depended on some quiet alone time we were so used to. And while we were prepared for the one off situations, we were not prepared for an extended period of time for it to not be in place.

It was a good learning experience. Things to know how we can handle things differently. To make me feel more owned.

I am always curious how other couples/families who are in a D/s relationship handles such situations.