Happy Birthday!

Today is my Master's birthday.



I love birthdays. I love the opportunity to celebrate milestones. Birthdays, anniversaries, even certain holidays are there to show we have made it that much longer. Sometimes life is awesome and passes very quickly. Sometimes things are not great and it is a testament to our will that we make it to that milestone.

Birthdays are unique in which we take a moment simply to celebrate that someone we love is alive. They are here... in this world... and we get a moment to celebrate that they are living near us.

So, today I get the opportunity to celebrate that my Master is part of my world. That makes me happy.

He joked with me this morning... "So who gets the birthday spankings..." My answer was simply - Whoever you want to.

I love you Master... <3 and Happy Birthday!

Anniversary

Our marriage anniversary was this week. This is not quite what it was... but it is definitely on the list for future anniversaries...



We have been married for 6 years this week. I am blessed to have such a wonderful Master.

His birthday is also this week... I always get "neat" little items for him for gift giving occasions... I will be sure to tell you what I get him :)

A Tuesday Treat

Collars

If you read long enough, you run into essays scolding how easy collars are put on and taken off. It is often referred to as a Velcro collar. If you keep reading you will read about how long it should take to get a collar and anything less is not taking it seriously. 

When talking about D/s or M/s relationships you inevitably run into the topic of collars.  For the purpose of this post, we are not talking about protection collars and such... just formal collars.


I read all of this and cry Bull Shit.

And here is why.

When I did my research on collars I likened it to an wedding ring. Whether there is or is not the same level of  commitment... some of that is just a sign of the times. However, as an over all statement, I don't think "time" is a indication of a level of commitment.

Master and I got engaged within 3 months of KNOWING each other and while we lived in different states.  Moved in together 3 months later. Got married almost a year and a half later (trust me it would have been sooner, we just had some outside issues that had to be resolved before we could). We will be celebrating our 6 year anniversary this month.

So the argument of there being a specific time has to be in place for a commitment doesn't fly for me.

And... what works for me may not work for you. Some people need that necessary time.

Having said all this, when Master and I entered into our D/s relationship, he did NOT present me with a collar the next day. Or the next week. Despite being married for 5 years, this was still another commitment. One that we were not taking for granted just because we were married. We decided years ago to get married based on one set of criteria. We were going to decide on a collar on another set.


Since then I have received my collar. I love my collar. He loves my collar. It is a commitment we both understand clearly. I wear my wedding ring understanding the commitment behind it and wear my collar understanding the commitment behind it. They are both very different and unique commitments we take very seriously.

Kids and D/s

I do not claim to be an expert at this, in fact I claim a lot of ignorance and have much to learn about this lifestyle.

What I do claim is that I am a good mother. Of all the things I have done in my life, being a good mother is one of the things I take pride in. 

Which brings me to how we live day to day with our kids in the house. I will admit, it would be easier if they were all under 2. I will admit I am lucky that the youngest one only has a year left in elementary school. However, with pre-teens and teens in the house they start to watch how their parents behave. 

Part of our contract does state that He will not exhibit overt dominance in front of the children.  He is very good about that, but that doesn't mean that they may not notice how I walk a step behind him. Or that I typically tack on "if you don't mind" to the end of many of my plans when they are there. Or that I don't sit and eat until He does. When they notice little nuances we pass many things off simple "respect" because much of it can be summed up as that. 

Or maybe it is all in my mind. I always assume that my kids notice things (which I have been shown time and time again is not always true). Who knows. I do know that I will always encourage my children to find their own path. So when they are actually old enough to understand why their parents act differently than their friends parents will we talk to them about it... maybe. However, like any other "lifestyle" there is out there, it is not for everybody. I don't think D/s relationships are the only way. Just like I don't think "vanilla" relationships are for everybody (I hate the term vanilla).  The only thing that is important to me at the end of the day they are happy and healthy.

Their parents in a strong committed relationship that works for them allows for a happy healthy environment for our children. 

Now... just how to answer the question my son posed last night... "why is there a lock on your necklace". 

~smiles~