Submission... What Is It?

dictionary.com has the definition as:

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: the condition of being submissive, humble, or compliant

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: an act of submitting to the authority or control of another

When giving the gift of submission to another person, that takes on another meaning all together. Anybody can say they are submissive and obey the orders of a Dom(mes). However, for true submission, it has to begin in their heart. The desire to do what is desired of them. Not just going through the motions, but following rules and direction because it pleases their Dom.

It is not enough to follow what is told to you. It is that desire to follow them for the pleasure of the Dominant.  

A very simplistic example is that many people have the task to make the evening meal. This is not just in D/s relationships, but in everyday relationships - kink or no kink. For many it is just a task that has to get done, and they are the one that chose/are in the position to do it. For those who have this a task of their submission, it is something that is often done with a light heart and a smile because they are bringing comfort and pride to their Master. 

Yes, yes, I know... D/s is not all about what kind of household chores can your Dom(mes) make you do. But to truly break down true submission, you need to see the picture for what it is. It is giving up your will for the will of another with joy in your heart. Their happiness, their pleasure then becomes your own when you truly immerse yourself in that submission. 

Most D/s relationships have some sort of protocol. Some have kneeling, some call their Dom(mes) Sir, Ma'am, Master or Mistress. Some kiss the ground or their Dom(mes) feet when they get home... but some protocols are much more subtle, but just as powerful. While they may sit at the same time as their family, they won't take a bite till their Master takes a bite. They may let them pick out their everyday (non-kink) clothes. 


If simply following directions was all that is need for a good submissive, then none of the above would be needed. These types of displays show that their heart and not just their mind are submissive. 

Like anything else worth having... giving your total submission is not easy. It takes work and constant maintenance. It is a labor of love - but the rewards are so satisfying. It is not a gift to give lightly, and not to just anybody, but when it is done with the right person, there is no doubt that submission is it own treasure